The Urge for Safety Vs. The Urge For Danger

This story illustrates one of the paradoxes of human beings. There are two conflicting urges inside us. One part of us likes safety and stability – the kind which office jobs bring. We shy away from danger and difficulty and try to protect ourselves from misfortune. We like to have secure jobs that give us a steady income and to organize our lives into steady routines, which we repeat over and over. We like to feel that our futures are secure and that we and our children aren’t going to lack for anything.

But there’s another part of us that pushes in a different direction, rebelling against safety and security. This part of us seeks out adventure and adversity. It seems to relish challenge and danger. We climb mountains, run marathons, and practice extreme sports such as paragliding or bungee jumping. We give up highly paid and secure jobs to work for charities, or to go sailing around the world. For this part of our being, it’s more important to feel alive than to feel safe. It’s almost as if we need challenges to keep ourselves awake as if too much safety and routine puts us into a semi-comatose state in which we sleepwalk through our lives. We know – if only unconsciously – that challenges like the above are character-building, leading to increased confidence and resilience. They put us in touch with deep reserves of creativity and skill inside us, and make us feel that we are living at our full potential.

Voluntary Post-Traumatic Growth

I refer to this impulse to seek out challenge and danger as ‘voluntary post-traumatic growth.’ Post-traumatic growth describes the long-term after-effects of traumatic experiences. Research has shown that all traumatic experiences can bring positive effects such as a greater sense of confidence and competence, a heightened sense of appreciation, a wider sense of perspective, a stronger sense of meaning and purpose, more authentic relationships, and so on. My view is that we human beings like to put ourselves in difficult and even traumatic situations as a way of harnessing some of these effects. We know intuitively that by surmounting challenges and dangers, we will gain the some of the benefits that people gain accidentally after traumatic incidents. We sense that we will become more confident and competent, more appreciative of our lives, and so on. In extreme cases – such as my colleague the motorcyclist – it is possible that people are acting on a subconscious impulse to expose themselves to the danger of dying in order to gain some of the psychological benefits of encountering death. These can be similar to those of post-traumatic growth in general, but more powerful.

Of course, this isn’t the only reason why people practice extreme sports or voluntarily put themselves through challenges. Extreme sports certainly may cause exhilarating neurological or physiological changes, such as heightened adrenaline or a release of endorphins. Overcoming challenges also brings a sense of achievement and accomplishment.

In addition, I think that people practice challenging activities because of their consciousness-changing effect. Challenging activities are very effective ways of inducing “flow” –a state of intense absorption which intensifies our mental energy and brings a powerful sense of well-being. They may even induce what I call ‘awakening experiences,’ or higher states of consciousness. In these moments the world around us become vivid and beautiful, and we feel a sense of connection with a deeper aspect of our own being, and also feel as if we have become part of our surroundings. The challenge and danger of the activities is a powerful focus for our attention, which quietens our minds and brings us into a state of heightened awareness.

The urge to grow is natural to human beings. It’s almost as if there is an evolutionary impulse inside us, impelling us to uncover new depths of our being, and to extend our range of experience. It seems that we are not meant to be static. We feel frustrated when we’re trapped, and our urge to grow can’t express itself. Challenge is like light to us – when we have it, we grow; when we lack it, we shrivel up inside. Of course, life itself offers us regular challenges, but if our lives become too easy and safe, then we may feel impelled to create challenges for ourselves, so that we can continue to grow.